posted on: 2009-08-11 01:58:42
Loving Relationships that Last
By Cindy
"Loving relationships that fulfill us as human beings is what we are all looking for but why is it so hard and why do so many fail. What can you do to have the relationship everyone envies? "
(Free-Press-Release.com) June 14, 2009 --
Economic failures, educational failures, and job failures are so tough but none affect us as much as not finding love with a soul mate in a relationship that lasts forever. It is a world filled with problems, tough times and stress, you would think as humans we could at least find our soul mate. We meet people everyday, pass them on the street, see them at all types of social places yet finding the one for us seems to evade almost 60% of our population. We hunt on line, look for compatiblity studies, advertise ourselves and yet failure after failure occurs.There are many reasons why we have relationship trouble, but the main reason is that we simply don't understand each other. There are many reasons why women have relationship trouble but the main reason may be that women simply don't understand men. If a woman really understood men, they'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them treat them like a queen, and give them everything their heart desires.
The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women's magazines.
If you're like most women, you probably love talking to your girlfriends about your relationship troubles, and -- yikes! -- asking them for relationship advice. Unless your girlfriend happens to be a professional relationship therapist, who has counseled many couples towards successful relationships -- and unless she herself has a successful relationship with a man (very important!) -- it's unwise to take relationship advice or tips from your girlfriend (or your mother, sister, cousin or aunt, for that matter).
By all means, seek the listening ear of a girlfriend if you simply want to unburden -- and if talking to your girlfriend makes you feel better. But always remember that talking to your girlfriends (as depicted accurately in the once-popular Sex and the City TV series), fosters deeper and better friendships with your girlfriends -- but does nothing to improve your relationships with men.
Now, don't get me wrong. Some of your girlfriends might indeed have the wisdom to give you good advice -- but that advice will almost always be based only on their own limited experience and observation. Just because your girlfriend has had an experience similar to yours doesn't mean her advice applies to your situation.
I chuckle every time I remember the story of a woman who spent hours on the phone with her girlfriend discussing why her boyfriend was giving her the silent treatment, and what she might have done to provoke it, and what she could do to get him talking again. All the while, her boyfriend was just not in a talkative mood because he was worrying that the carburetor in his car wasn't working right!
Just goes to show how little women know about men!
Relationships for women are certainly not easy. Men tend to place enormus pressure on the female to be sexually active before there is true intimacy. This can lead to those false feelings we all get from the awesome feelings lust produces. Problem is without love and intimacy they are like a drug that loses its effect and leaves us yearning for a new drug. Why make the mistakes? Well loneliness is tough and loneliness of the heart is the worst so mistakes seem tolerable but eventually become unbearable.
If we learn from our mistakes then at least we can move forward. If we look for love and we want to find it then we usually need a serious guide. WWW.Relationshipslastingforever.com is a great place to start if your ready to learn and suceed. Life is to short to simply be alone.
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